How to Free Yourself from Those Who Hurt You

Mastering the Art of Letting Go

Some wounds don’t just heal with time. Some betrayals don’t just fade into memory.

What do you do when the people you trusted most turn on you? When the ones you considered family, friends, your inner circle—your ride-or-dies—prove that loyalty is just a word, not a reality?

I’ve asked myself that question more times than I can count.

I know what it feels like to be discarded. To be lied to, manipulated, used, abandoned.
To look at someone you once loved and realize they never saw you the same way.

Betrayal isn’t just a personal wound—it’s a spiritual battle. And it’s happening on a global scale.

We are living in a time where deception, greed, and power have corrupted the very foundation of our world. Truth, integrity, and loyalty are no longer the standard.

We see it in politics, in media, in the institutions that claim to protect us. Good versus evil isn’t just a concept—it’s a war. And many of us—the ones who still believe in truth, justice, and honesty—have been forced to stand alone.

But here’s what I’ve learned through all my heartbreak:

They didn’t break me. They revealed me — because every betrayal was a test. Every loss was a lesson in self-mastery. Thank you Shifu Shi Yan Ming for guiding me along the way in Shaolin training.

They thought they could steal my power. They thought they could destroy me. They thought I was too broken to turn this into my way of the warrior. They thought wrong.

Forgiving the Unforgivable

They don’t deserve my forgiveness.

That thought used to echo in my mind like a chant. I gripped onto my anger like a sword, convinced that if I forgave them—the manipulators, the narcissists, the ones who took advantage of my kindness—I would be letting them win. But what I didn’t realize was that I wasn’t protecting myself. I was poisoning myself.

We think holding onto resentment gives us power, but in reality, it only chains us to the past. If you’ve ever been betrayed, abandoned, or deceived, you know how deep that wound cuts. Forgiveness might feel impossible—maybe even offensive. But what if I told you forgiveness isn’t about them at all?

It’s about reclaiming your own peace.

Why Forgiveness Feels Impossible

Forgiveness isn’t just emotionally hard—it’s biological.

Your brain is wired to remember pain. The amygdala—the part of your brain that detects danger—holds onto betrayal so you never make the same mistake again.

That’s why even thinking about the people who hurt you can make your chest tighten and your hands shake. Your body doesn’t know the difference between memory and reality. And here’s the most dangerous part:

The more you replay the pain, the deeper the wound.

This is why forgiveness is an act of self-discipline. You are not just healing your heart—you are retraining your mind. And if there’s one thing I’ve learned from training in Shaolin Kung-Fu, it’s this:

Master the mind, and you master everything.

The Lies We Believe About Forgiveness

Forgiveness is forgetting.
Truth: You can release resentment without erasing what happened.

Forgiveness means letting them back in.
Truth: You can forgive someone and still never speak to them again.

Forgiveness is saying it was okay.
Truth: You are not excusing their actions—you are refusing to let them define you.

The moment I realized forgiveness was about MY freedom, not theirs, everything changed.

• I stopped waiting for an apology that would never come.

• I stopped replaying painful conversations in my head.

• I stopped expecting closure from people who weren’t even honest with themselves.

Instead, I spend my time taking back my power and reinventing myself.

The Blueprint for the Release

#1. Separate Yourself from the Story

Pain is real. But suffering? Suffering is the story we attach to pain.

Instead of believing, “They destroyed me.” Try believing, “This was a painful lesson, but it does not define me.”

Your power lies in your perspective. Change the story, and you change your life.

#2. Accept That You May Never Get Closure

One of the hardest truths: toxic people will never give you the closure you deserve.

• They will never admit their wrongs.

• They will never feel guilt for what they did.

• They will move on as if nothing happened.

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#3. Express Your Pain—Then Release It

Your pain needs an outlet, or it will consume you. Write a letter you’ll never send. Say everything you need to say—then burn it, delete it, rip it up. Pain that is not released becomes stored trauma. And you? You deserve better than to carry their weight.

#4. Set Boundaries (Forgiveness ≠ Weakness)

Forgiving someone does not mean letting them back in.

• You can forgive and still block them.

• You can forgive and still cut off contact.

• You can forgive and still demand better.

Forgiveness is an internal shift—it does not require reconciliation.

#5. Make Peace with the Unfairness

Some people never get what they deserve. Some people never change.

Ask yourself: Do I want to waste energy hoping for karma… or do I want to be free?

When I stopped waiting for justice and started focusing on my own healing, my life started to transform — it is still transforming, and I like this feeling.

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